Hello to you!! And welcome HOME!!
For here is where you will find love, acceptance, and understanding!! Here, it is not "a crime" to "think for yourself"!
We listen to each other, and there is not one of us here that does not understand where you are, or what you are feeling...we all HAVE BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, BOUGHT THE T-SHIRT, AND GAVE IT TO "GOODWILL"!
To reply to your post:
I see your situation, with this girl that you care for, as "a symptom" of something that is very wrong. Now do not be afraid to listen to reason. You feel it in your own heart that something is wrong.
You are in an organization that tells you that your life does not belong to YOU! If it did, you would feel free to "THINK FOR YOURSELF". But that is against the rules, isn't it? I remember the constant warnings to "guard against independent thinking". But what is the opposite of "independent thinking"?? Isn't is DEPENDENT thinking? And aren't Jehovah's Witnesses taught that they must believe what they are told?
Did our loving Father not give us the ability to THINK for ourselves? Did He not promise that His Holy Spirit would help us, through prayer, to ascertain the answer to any problem that we come to Him with?
To be attracted to this young lady is not "wrong". But she obviously "sees" what you do not! That if you were not in this organization, you would be able to "see", and "think" for yourself...and not coming here, asking us for help and advice!
(Of course it's OKAY to come to us...that is what we are here for: each other! I am just giving you a little something to "chew on".)
I hope that you will go to your heavenly Father in prayer. (Unfortunately, many of the Brothers' have a difficult time praying...due to the never ending "guilt", and "fear", that they are not "good enough"!)
Love, and the ability to love, is one of the most PRECIOUS GIFTS that our Father gave to us. It is a blessed and sacred thing. So go to Jehovah, please, in prayer...and ask Him for His guidance. Remember that the Psalms tell us that "Jehovah is a hearer of prayer"; that "He hears the prayers of a sincere heart".
(Now don't go on and worry if you're "sincere" or not!)
We are ALL here for you!! You can FEEL FREE to post at any time. And please do not get scared that posting here is some "sin", and that the Brothers' "might find out". (They won't, anyway.)
"Do not put your faith in earthling man, to whom no salvation belongs".
I never could understand why the religion seemed to be based on "fear", anyway...fear of "what Br. Elder might think", or "what Sister Pioneer might say". Perfect love throws fear outside!
I think that you know, in your heart, why this girl does not return your calls. She is probably very intelligent, and with some education. She can see the organization for what it is: a man-made organization that a LOT of people follow...WITHOUT QUESTION...and that you are not only one of them, you don't even SEE what she sees.
She knows that there is nothing she can say.
I hope that I have not "scared you". None of us are "wicked". We joke a lot about being "Apostates" because the society has portrayed ANYONE who has been a member, and then decided it was not for them, as an apostate. The dictionay's definition of the word, "Apostate" is: "One who no longer believes his religion's teaching, and has left it". That's it!!
Yet the society has gone through great pains to indoctrinate all of Jehohvah's Witnesses to associate the word, "Apostate", with some terrible terms:
A "Hater of Jehovah".
One who has "turned his back" on the "truth".
One who is a "lover of Satan". (That's my favorite!)
One who "twists" the truth. (My next favorite)
And, one who trys to "entice" others away from "the truth".
Ring any bells?? I hope that you can get hold of the original "TRUTH" book, put out in 1969. (It's dark blue)
In about the third paragraph the book admonishes the reader to "test out whether or not they have the true religion". I remember that book being hailed as one of the most exciting, and important, publications that the society had, as yet, published...and that it was going to be VERY INSTRUMENTAL in "bringing in" thousands of "sheep" in a short time...because it was showing "the truth" so "clearly".
I guess it is no coincidence that "The Truth" book is no longer studied...or even considered to be "light".
We all care for you!! I will be praying for you in this!
"Trust in Jehovah WITH ALL YOUR HEART and DO NOT lean upon your own understanding. In ALL your ways, take notice of Him, and HE, Himself, will make your paths straight". I have found this to be entirely true. So have the rest of us. And it is wonderful!!
May Jehovah bless you!!
Anne Marie
"The unexamined life is not worth living."
Plato